| ICF definition:
Ability to be fully conscious and create spontaneous relationship
with the client, employing a style that is open, flexible and
confident.
1.Coaching Presence.
'Technique is for a coach what a text
is for an actor: they both have to forget it in order to be
present.' Luc de Belloy
It is impossible to overestimate the importance of Coaching
Presence as the foundation of all great coaching. As we progress
towards mastery, techniques will be valuable and we will constantly
gather them, but the power in our coaching will be in the
ability to be present - to be able to meet all that is occurring
with openness and intelligence: 'the capacity
to meet experience fully and directly without filtering it
through any conceptual or strategic agenda' (Welwood).
A coach who can do this, will find techniques popping up like
old friends during sessions, rather then having to stretch
for them. Techniques and tools arise from profound, sustained
presence. This sometimes requires a measure of faith. We can
be taken into the heart of not knowing with a client - a fertile,
if somewhat unnerving place! 'What do I say/do now?' Learning
to BE there with the client (sometimes in silence), so that
they can learn to be present with their own experience, and
feel it fully, is a great gift for the client. It is a very
subtle kind of modelling which gifts a client contact with
their inner life and consequently, independence from the coach's
perceptions. It is truly empowering.
'Unconditional presence is the most powerful
transmuting force there is'. J Welwood
Coaching Supervision and Mentoring supports the development
of Coaching Presence by inviting the coach to explore the
minutiae of his/her presence in life and during specific sessions,
by the supervisor being present to these explorations, offering
insights and collaboratively creating specific training games/experiments
which will deepen the coach's capacity to be present.
2. Personal Development - EQ and
SQ
EQ - emotional intelligence.
Personal Presence.
'Who we are is how we coach.' The business of who I am in
life, in the coaching moment, has a major impact on how I
am coaching in that moment. The following questions are central
when we address notions of EQ. What is the range of my own
life experience? How connected and comfortable am I with my
inner world? How well researched is it? Have I sufficient
confidence to meet all client situations with truth, confidence
and grace? How do I relate to glitches in clients' personalities
and behaviour? How do I relate to my own fears and other strong
feelings which can arise in coaching? How much/little am I
aware of the energetic exchange between myself and clients?
Can I respond to what I know about this? Am I working at a
level which is consistent with who I am - or am I edging beyond
my personal limits? Can I hold Self and Other in the same
frame of perception/thought/imagination as I speak with clients?
Coaching Supervision and Mentoring work powerfully to strengthen
coaches' EQ., so that they develop key internal skills that
will lead to an increase the range of clients that they work
with. The happy result will be that coaches can meet more
client situations with confidence and competence.
SQ. - spiritual intelligence.
Transpersonal Presence.
This is a major source of strength and insight in Coaching
Presence. When we nurture our SQ., we can be present to the
heights and depths of human life. We are also opening the
possibility of working transformatively with clients. Developing
SQ is becoming a key feature of training as the coaching profession
matures. Coachville and Newfield Coaching are two coaching
schools which emphasise the need for coaches to be cognisant
of, and skilled in, working with SQ.
At MCI, we have significant training and experience in working
in this way and teaching it to others. As Mentors and Coaching
Supervisors, we use the powerful insights of SQ to greatly
expand coaches' consciousness and all-round awareness. D.
Zohar defines SQ as: 'the intelligence with which we access
our deepest meanings, values, purposes and highest motivations.
It is how we use these in our thinking processes, in the decisions
we make.' We might add that it is how we use these in our
coaching conversations that will determine both the range
of life situations in which we are able to be comfortably
present as coaches, and the depth to which we can take our
clients. 'LIFE coaching' does invite us to be conversant with
as many aspects of life as possible. To 'have' SQ., is to
be working at a soul level. At this level we are enabling
our clients to touch the heart of their lives. People in all
contexts benefit from coaching conversations which move towards
soul-making - that which reconnects us with the imaginative
possibility in our natures, which 'turns events into experiences',
which helps us to align with emergent potential, which makes
positive use of adversity and which establishes awareness
of field consciousness.
'The soul is dyed the colour of its thoughts.
Think only those things that are in line with your principles
and can bear the light of day. The content of your character
is your choice. Day by day, what you do is who you become.
Your integrity is your destiny. - it is the light that guides
your way.' Heraclitus
3. Practical Preparation for Presence
Sometimes it is the distraction of compulsive thinking which
takes us away from the present and out of Presence. There
are many Energy Management tools which help to bring us into
the NOW, into Presence. A basic guide is that the best way
to get out of your mind is to get into the body. The following
simple and quick exercise has the effect of slowing you down,
clearing your mind and enabling you to be fully present in
any situation. It is particularly useful when working with
clients.
GROUNDING, CENTRING, BREATHING.
Grounding.
Whether you are walking or sitting, become aware of where
the 'ground' touches your body - through the soles of your
feet, the back of your legs and bum, and your back. Bring
all of your attention to that physical sensation for a moment.
Feel the ground holding you up.
Centring.
Now bring all your attention and awareness closer to home
- to the trunk of your body. Be in the centre of your body
- let the trunk straighten and feel its strength.
Breathing.
Finally, bring your awareness to your breath. - let your
breath breathe you. Notice the rise and fall of your chest
or the flow of air as it enters and exits your nose. Ride
on the breath.
Practise this sequence slowly and regularly until you are
able to use it effectively in a few seconds. Use it in your
life and before and during coaching sessions.
Edna Murdoch

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